Earlier in the week, Twitter NG was drowning in heartbreak tales. I had to limit my exposure because I wasn’t sure I could handle the flood of emotions.
You will expect that after being on earth for these many years, humans would have realized that we need to do better when it comes to passing down knowledge from one person or generation to the other.
We learn about our immediate environment from family, picking up on languages and etiquette, and at school, we learn about the world at large.
For many people, the bulk of all they know is what they learned in school.
You must have heard that school doesn't teach the essential things you need to succeed in life.
Outside school, we do not find much luck either. We become so busy learning about everything else but ourselves, which causes us more trouble than our knowledge can make up for.
Human beings are the most complex machines globally, and, surprisingly, there are no manuals to help us better understand these machines.
It makes very little sense considering that every other machine on earth has got a User's Manual — even cars.
Life on earth would be a lot better if everyone had a manual that they could easily pass on to others.
A Human User’s Manual that could help speed up the talking phase and eliminate surprises down the line.
Many people attempt to know and understand others without first figuring out themselves.
We focus too much time on cracking the code with limited data points — you'll never know enough about someone else to understand them fully.
Instead, we are better off spending this time observing ourselves, taking notes of triggers, reactions, likes, dislikes, and all the other things that people need to know to have a sustainable relationship with us.
At the moment, we do a version of this, albeit only when we are about to get romantically involved with someone.
We try to know what their favorite everything is, some events from their past, and their vision of the future.
It isn't easy to trust the data shared at this point as it is rarely ever comprehensive enough and, most times, it’s formulated on the fly.
If you imagine for a second what life would feel like for you if you had access to all the information you needed to relate the best with someone, you should see enough reason to be this someone to others.
Heartbreaks are disappointments dressed in Louis Vuitton and Canada Goose.
When we know what to expect and how to deal with situations, we would fare better and suffer less heartbreaking moments.
I realize I became a much better person when I drafted my own User's Manual.
I had spent years not knowing what my favorite anything was or how I preferred to be treated. All I knew was that some things pissed me off, and others made me feel good.
Figuring out who I am has made a lot of difference, and everyone should do the same.
Spend the rest of this year studying yourself, being aware of your reactions to various things, and taking notes.
To be better at flying a plane, you need to understand how it reacts to every action — either a push of a button or pulling on a lever.
In the same vein, you need to understand who you are to be a better person.
You won’t only be helping yourself but everyone else who comes in contact with you.
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